It certainly pays to be the good child, huh? You do what you’re told, you get praise by adults and superiors, and you get a good rep. *Earns a smack across the back of the head*. Stop doing that to yourself. Let me tell you what’s wrong with that:
- You’re suppressing your emotions most of the time: Listen, let me tell you why parents, teachers, bosses, etc…love the good child. It’s because they do not want to put up with crap. That’s it. Nothing that really benefits you. In life, you have to put up with crap and holding in all the emotions and desires you have will hold you back. It is not a sin to feel the way you do. All you really need to do is turn them into positive action
- You become a relentless people pleaser: Look now, you would never please everybody. People pleasing is a dangerous fatal flaw. It is just asking for bullies, friends who take advantage of you, bosses taking advantage of you, and worst of all abusive relationships to come into you’re life. You’re a special person. Act like it. You do for others because you want to help, not because of approval.
- You don’t go after what you want in life: It’s a hard lesson, but it is something you need to know. The ones who say they know what’s best for you really don’t. Your loved ones may unintentionally hold you back. You may think that going after you want is not allowed because you think it’s bad thing to be autonomous, that you need approval before doing something. Are you really going to wait for mommy and daddy to tell you to go after a girl you like? Do you need your boss’s approval to go after a promotion or another company that offers you more. Come on, man. Successful people go after what they desire.
- You lose yourself: The minute you submit to the good child role, you submit you’re identity. You’re no longer a beautiful, unique person that you are. You’re a generic label. We live in era where who you are is an important aspect of life. What makes life so enjoyable is that we meet the many different personalities and views of the world, and you’re a part of that. Don’t lose yourself.