“What do you want to do with your life?” is a common question we’re all asked at some point. It is also one of the stupidest questions to ask. What you really want to say is any where from sitting on the couch all day, streaming Netflix, read a good book (that’s the way), Internet surfing, hang out with friends, and so forth and so on. But if you’re talking about jobs, that’s a whole other stupid question. As much as people don’t want me to say this, but jobs on the whole is either disappearing, pay so little you might as well as be counted as unemployed, and/or take so much of your time that the money you make is nearly pointless. Why would anyone want a job? At best a job is a means to an end; we all know that. Add to that automation, basically technology reducing workload, is becoming more and more a thing and jobs being done by foreign cheap laborers. Let’s be clear. This isn’t a post to slam jobs, but if you’re unemployed, looking for a job, and having a hard time doing so, I got news for you. You’re not useless or broken. Times changed; we have to as well. You have a lot more to do than job search all day.
Now to the topic at hand. You’re right now looking at job posts. Filling out application after application. That’s great and all but if the fish isn’t biting yet, this is hardly the time to fill out more applications until they do. This is where the phrase “what am I doing with my life comes in”. We have 24 hours a day and ticking, and saying what you did all day was searching for a job…well, sounds better than it really is. There’s billions of things you should be doing right now as well. You need to be healthy, you could learn how to make excellent dishes, you could be writing a ground breaking novel, you could be doing something that will help people, you could be mastering different languages. Are you seeing what I getting at? My family tells me what I am doing is getting up, cleaning, reading, and driving places to buy books. When I was working, I was…getting up, cleaning, reading, and driving places to buy books. Nothing’s changed. I was getting any where in life either. You’re going to make yourself crazy by wasting a whole day looking for your next pay check. In order to grow in wealth, you must increase your value, your worth, and y’know actually find what you want to do. Chances are your calling is probably more fulfilling and useful in the long run. The question you should be asking yourself is “what am I working for” and “how could I provide more value.”
Quick. Tell me what you did today. Now review what you did so far, what kind of music you listened to, what kind of videos you watched, what kind of books you’ve read (which if I’m being honest, is way better than staring at a screen). This is the stuff that is affecting your mental state and your mood, and the things you are attracting into your life. There’s a reason why billionaires all read personal development books voraciously, and recommend that you do so as well. Because it influences you to be more positive, more effective, and to grow as people. Your wealth can only grow as much you do and that goes for happiness too. Listen, I had been reading some Chicken Soup for the Soul books, and I felt amazing. Good things became attracted to me and it will do the same for you. I implore you to cut out the music and videos that are angry and angsty, no matter whether or not you better relate to it for the moment. Chances are you’re still gonna feel like trash or worse. The small things you do everyday effects your entire life. So pick up a self development book, money books, TED talks, listen to some Owl City, and watch as your life starts changing for the better. Here I’ll help:
Books I recommend: How to Win Friends and Influence People, Think and Grow Rich, Any Chicken Soup for the Soul series, The Magic of Thinking Big, 50th Law, Tools of the Titans, Tribe of Mentors, The Secret, 48 Laws of Power, 4 Hour Workweek, Zero to One, there’s plenty more in your local bookstore.
Next time: Why you shouldn’t spend your whole day looking for a job.
Look you all know that what you say has a great impact on your’s and everyone else’s life, but here’s something that can enhance or destroy that. Are you ready? One, two, three: GESTURES. Listen, communication is not just words okay. There’s a reason why sign language is a thing. Your body betrays what you’re thinking, and people can pick up on that. For example, if you’re trying to help a friend improve on something, sticking your finger in their face and waving about like an angry parent will not send the message across. It’s confrontational, passive aggressive, and the message will be shot down. So watch your hands, your expressions, convey sincerity. To attract good, one must resemble and be good.
Next time: Why what you read, watch, and listen can affect not only your mood, but what comes into your life.