Try this exercise out. Forget all that you know, forget what has happened in your life, your experiences, your relationships, even your birth. Everything is a blank space. Make sure you have a paper and a writing utensil nearby. Pretend that now you are the one who writes your fate. Everything that you decide to put on that page is how your life is going to turn out. You are now the author. Now write your story the way you want it. You feel more in control of your life, that you have the power to choose anything. You are the god/goddess of your world. Look at your handy work. You’ve created a new world. That world is now appearing in your world right now. Congratulations, my friend. You just manifested your ideal life
It certainly pays to be the good child, huh? You do what you’re told, you get praise by adults and superiors, and you get a good rep. *Earns a smack across the back of the head*. Stop doing that to yourself. Let me tell you what’s wrong with that:
You’re suppressing your emotions most of the time: Listen, let me tell you why parents, teachers, bosses, etc…love the good child. It’s because they do not want to put up with crap. That’s it. Nothing that really benefits you. In life, you have to put up with crap and holding in all the emotions and desires you have will hold you back. It is not a sin to feel the way you do. All you really need to do is turn them into positive action
You become a relentless people pleaser: Look now, you would never please everybody. People pleasing is a dangerous fatal flaw. It is just asking for bullies, friends who take advantage of you, bosses taking advantage of you, and worst of all abusive relationships to come into you’re life. You’re a special person. Act like it. You do for others because you want to help, not because of approval.
You don’t go after what you want in life: It’s a hard lesson, but it is something you need to know. The ones who say they know what’s best for you really don’t. Your loved ones may unintentionally hold you back. You may think that going after you want is not allowed because you think it’s bad thing to be autonomous, that you need approval before doing something. Are you really going to wait for mommy and daddy to tell you to go after a girl you like? Do you need your boss’s approval to go after a promotion or another company that offers you more. Come on, man. Successful people go after what they desire.
You lose yourself: The minute you submit to the good child role, you submit you’re identity. You’re no longer a beautiful, unique person that you are. You’re a generic label. We live in era where who you are is an important aspect of life. What makes life so enjoyable is that we meet the many different personalities and views of the world, and you’re a part of that. Don’t lose yourself.