Listen, if you’re one of those types (such as myself), who are constantly looking up law of attraction how tos. Do yourself a favor and stop doing it, your just attracting more how tos. At the very minimum, limit you research. I know it is hard for those obsessive types, but you do have a life to live you know. Trust me, if you want to manifest riches in your life, you time is best spent looking at things about riches instead of how to manifest riches. Master feeling good and train your thoughts to what is you’re trying to manifest. You have to convince yourself that you already have it, ‘kay. Stay beautiful.
It certainly pays to be the good child, huh? You do what you’re told, you get praise by adults and superiors, and you get a good rep. *Earns a smack across the back of the head*. Stop doing that to yourself. Let me tell you what’s wrong with that:
You’re suppressing your emotions most of the time: Listen, let me tell you why parents, teachers, bosses, etc…love the good child. It’s because they do not want to put up with crap. That’s it. Nothing that really benefits you. In life, you have to put up with crap and holding in all the emotions and desires you have will hold you back. It is not a sin to feel the way you do. All you really need to do is turn them into positive action
You become a relentless people pleaser: Look now, you would never please everybody. People pleasing is a dangerous fatal flaw. It is just asking for bullies, friends who take advantage of you, bosses taking advantage of you, and worst of all abusive relationships to come into you’re life. You’re a special person. Act like it. You do for others because you want to help, not because of approval.
You don’t go after what you want in life: It’s a hard lesson, but it is something you need to know. The ones who say they know what’s best for you really don’t. Your loved ones may unintentionally hold you back. You may think that going after you want is not allowed because you think it’s bad thing to be autonomous, that you need approval before doing something. Are you really going to wait for mommy and daddy to tell you to go after a girl you like? Do you need your boss’s approval to go after a promotion or another company that offers you more. Come on, man. Successful people go after what they desire.
You lose yourself: The minute you submit to the good child role, you submit you’re identity. You’re no longer a beautiful, unique person that you are. You’re a generic label. We live in era where who you are is an important aspect of life. What makes life so enjoyable is that we meet the many different personalities and views of the world, and you’re a part of that. Don’t lose yourself.
It’s finally here. I have finally worked for over one year and no, this blog is not my job unfortunately. Working on a night shift two hours from my home has been a trial, and the magnificence of that long journey is just the tip of the long adventure I underwent.
Working at a group home in a low income, virtually jobless state in the South came with a price. A price I had to pay. (I’m seriously going to move to another state when the money rakes in well enough) See, at my place of work, it’s staff versus mentally and emotionally stunted adults plus management. You see management never has your back. They don’t care if you pass out cold on the ground, especially if the clients wants another smoke (seriously, if you want them to become healthy…). I battled a creepy, molester witch, a fat ogre, a nicotine addicted dragon, and night’s long oppression. I have to wake a Sleeping Beauty every morning, had the assistance of a clueless pixie, help a maiden get from place to place, and for a good majority of the year my only help came in the form of a pregnant medic. And paper work. I do paper work.
That was nothing compared to the dragons I faced in management. They storm the castle every once in a while breathing fire at the going ons of the castle. I had to stand up to them, but not to defend the villagers. Screw them. But to stand for my weekends off, the complaining about the paper work, and demanding of over time. I have yet to slay them, but I got a few strokes in. This epic hero has yet to fallen as his predecessors before him and he is determined to leave on his terms, nobody else. One year was a milestone. How long do I have to go?
You’re complaining and blaming: Look, it’s easy to point your fingers at somebody and say they’re the reason why everything you had coming to you is sucky, and it’s easier to complain. “It’s my boss’s fault that I didn’t get that promotion.”, ‘My life stinks and there’s nothing I could do about.” “Donald Trump is to blame for all my troubles.” (whether the last part is true is up for debate). But really, guys, read what I had just written. It takes a lot out of you, doesn’t it? See, that’s why I don’t watch the news. I want my day to start off on a good note, and it’s hard to do that when I see a headline that fifty people are injured due to a bomb or something. Look, there are some things in life you need to know. One of those things is that life is short, so instead of talking about how unfair it all is, do something about it or die. Your choice. A lot of successful people did not start off with everything, but they kept the mindset that is positive and that enabled them to achieve their goals. So the next time you ever think of blaming and complaining, catch yourself and start thinking about positive solutions. Look and feel how these thoughts work: “You are successful.” “You have the power to make life meaningful.” “The world is in the palm of my hands.” Those thoughts are empowering so say them repeatedly. These thoughts attract great things, so stop wasting time and get into the habit.
You repeat the same habits over and over: Listen this is a no brainer. If you’re doing the same things over and over again then nothing will change. Ever watch a TV show over and over again that you like, only for it to get real old fast. That my friend is your life. You’ve been brainwashed my friend into believing that you need to do the same things time and time again to have structure, but maybe structure isn’t what you need. What’s the solution? Dude! Mix. It. Up. Life is an action pack movie blockbuster. Ask yourself does Sean Connery stay awesome by doing the same stint? Do great TV shows run the same plot over and over again? No, they bring a different episode out to keep you invested.
You don’t wanna hear this, but everything you know is wrong: What were you taught growing up? Grow up, get an education, get a job, stay at that job, profit. No, no, NO!!!! That’s not how life works. For one, getting an education teaches you how to do subjects, subjects you could probably learn better on your own. Guess what it hardly teaches you: how to actually get a job. They don’t tell you that you need experience for jobs, which is a double bind for millennials these days, they don’t teach you that working hard is not enough to get a promotion or that you have to network; they don’t tell you that working 9 to 5 is more a waste of time than anything and by the end of it all, you would still be a broke loser. Look and listen, read about how successful people got they way they are. It is not the model we were bombarded with they used to get where they are, and it’s hardly luck as much as belief and getting the right people around them to succeed. Change how you think life should work, and go out and make it work.
You’re hanging out with the wrong crowd: Look, listen, and feel. The people around you, they have an influence on what you do. Successful people hang out with guess what? Successful people. Losers hang out with losers. See what I’m getting at. Now your personal group may not be all that bad, but if they have no ambition, always complain, and oh dear God are not accomplishing any goals, I’m sorry they’re not good for you. If you want to get somewhere in life, find people who are accomplishing something. Read constantly about successful people, get inspired, and go to work.
YOU ARE NOT TAKING ANY ACTION: Look, listen, feel, and do something! If you’re sitting on the couch, eating potato chips, reading about why your life sucks, then you have your answer to your problems. Successful people do something. Don’t have an ambition, go find one. Have a dream you want to achieve, find some way to accomplish it. Read about ways on how to be successful and GO DO THEM! Don’t be life’s little female dog. Be a champion!
I did a pretty good bit today on the literature front. I read some more out of “Jonah’s Gourd Vine”, read some poetry out of “The Earth’s Not Flat” (which is not about what the title suggests…or maybe it is. I’m not good at poetry), and I did my daily Spanish lesson so mi Espanol is that much better. I even felt good enough to edit today. I jogged for about an hour, and Wizards had finally decided to win today.
Today was just a simple Tuesday. I spent the morning at the library preparing for class, and by preparing for class I mean listening to music for half an hour. I have to do something fun before five straight hours of lectures, well, sort of lectures. First class nearly dropped me, but then I remembered that I had plush toy that I could fiddle with to keep me awake and focused and the teacher didn’t mind it so dug it out of my bag and fiddled away while outlining my third book. Hey, I have trouble learning by listening anyway. The least I could do is something productive. Psychology was alright. Got to try out my new textbook. I was prepared for literature class, and creative writing class had us visit a museum where we looked at photos of kids in juvenile detention centers while trying to write a story about what the scenes depict. I actually found a book somewhere, telling me what happened to land them there. The stories were more sad than reprehensible. The pictures kind of reminded me of myself, except I’ve never been a bad kid. I thought maybe it was my appearance. My favorite clothing was hoodies, and though I never put much thought into it, I knew that to some people hoodies were seen as a symbol of criminal activity. I did some research on the matter and found I wasn’t the only one with these things in mind. Fortunately, there is a positive movement in showing that hoodies are more of a fashion statement than anything criminal. I had a pretty good creative day, and the readings I have to do Thursday are pretty good. I look forward to finishing it. The only thing that ruins it: an essay due in over a week.